People sometimes do not realise how problematic and ungrateful they can possibly sound. We say things without thinking, act childishly and give no thoughts to any situations.

Have you ever heard a child speak and think to yourself: "that child has more common sense than adults"! Thing is, once we grow up, we assume that we know better and thus, act accordingly.

Everyone wants to be right but sometimes, being wrong is the learning curve. How can you say that you are mature when your actions do not match your words. When your thoughts are all over the place. When you blow a simple issue out of proportion.

We always have something to say about someone else, about a certain situation although we know nothing about it. We assume and spread rumours, knowingly or unknowingly. 

I believe it is the way we have been brought up and the society norms that have made these actions so normal. However, it is not!

We have a few steps to being unproblematic with -

Step one, being mindful. 

Think before you speak. Be mindful of what the other person is feeling or might feel after you say your bit. Put yourself in their shoes and decide for yourself if you had liked it if someone said the same thing about you or to you. You might be like "oh, but it's not easy for me to do that" or "it just slipped out of my mouth". Thing is, if you really wanted to or really tried to, you could. Nobody is better than the other. Your attitude and personality shows who you are. Be a better you!

Step two, do not judge.

You never know what someone is going through. How their mental or physical state is at that current moment, what their issues are, what could trigger them. There is always a facet of us that we keep hidden from the world. Be compassionate and empathetic. Again, if you had a bad day, would you like it if someone judges you based on the energy you are giving out or would you rather someone understands you for once?

Step three, if you have nothing nice to say, shut your mouth!

This is the easiest step. If you got something negative to say, and you know that it will not help the situation, just shut it. Sometimes, silence is better. There is no harm in not voicing out your thoughts because when you are in a dark place, you do not need more darkness from someone else!

Please understand that words hold so much power. Once the words are out, there is no taking them back. Think before you speak or act. Spread positive energy. Be the light in the someone's world of darkness!